We drive in them, we walk through them, we curse their existence! The deeper the ruts, the more we complain. Whether they are built out of snow and ice or mud and water, they arise every year much to our chagrin.
What about some other types of ruts? Some may call them habits or routines. Nothing against the familiar; the familiar can be satisfying, predictable, even enjoyable.
Until it isn’t. Then it becomes a rut.
We are wired to like the familiar. Our brains learn from repetition and look for the shortest, easiest way to get something done, to save energy and time, sometimes at the cost of creativity and pleasure that comes from variety.
Visiting aging loved ones can become a very familiar experience to the family. Have you caught yourself playing out the entire visit ahead of time in your imagination before you even arrive? Predicting the same old conversations, reactions, and responses you will get from your loved one? Perhaps you even calculate when your visit will end.
Does this sound familiar? Then you are in a rut!
It’s time to shake things up, for the sake of your loved one and for you! You have no time to spare.
Whether your loved one lives in a care facility or at home, there are many ways to add variety to your visits. Here are a few ideas to get you going!
These are just a few ideas to inspire you. It is easy to make a simple change. Doing so will help you and your aging loved one have more meaningful and fulfilling time together. Your relationship will deepen, and it will be time well spent for both of you. Get yourself out of the rut.